The Energetic Space Between Us
The energetic space between us relates to the Field of energy that permeates all space. Our emotions have energy tones and frequencies that set the tone in our spaces. Attuning to our energy field is a means of being conscious and connected to our emotional needs as humans. This attunement, or lack thereof, is the science of birth psychology. As we become more aware of our emotions and needs, we can become a better society. This talk is about compassionate birth practices for a more peaceful world. Our birth stories and time in-utero set the stage for our mental, spiritual, emotional, and physical well-being for the rest of our life. Please See Transcript Below
hello dear listeners of APPA my name is
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Christianna Deichmann I am the director of
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education at APPPAH the association for
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prenatal and perinatal psychology and
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health I wear a lot of hats during my
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day and these different roles at times
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I’m a psychosomatic therapist a cranial
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sacral therapist (craniosacral therapist) a massage therapist I
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am a mother a daughter a wife a friend a
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colleague
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and despite all these different hats
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that I wear they all have one thing in
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common
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each of these roles I carry a relational
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space with other human beings and that’s
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what I’m here to talk about today the
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energetic relational space
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between you and I
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Lynn McTaggart describes it in her book
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The Field
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it’s an invisible
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energy force yet it’s all around us
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it’s even if you watch Star Wars and you
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hear of the force the force be with you
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perhaps you can tune into it just now
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just feel your body
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and notice what you feel like
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early on in my life I was always keenly
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aware of this energetic space that I
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held Within Myself
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and what energy was in my space from
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others
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it was a gift and a curse and in the
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earlier years of my life I unconsciously
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spent a lot of time staying busy not
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slowing down enough to tune into this
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energetics energy field and if I did
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slow down I didn’t enjoy feeling the
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pollution that had been stockpiled in my
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space
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but I didn’t realize that the pollution
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I was carrying wasn’t just mine it was
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pollution that had gathered over the
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ages from family members that came
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before me from interactions that my
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family members had with others in their
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energetic relational space
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I was finally forced to confront this
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pollution in my space after the birth of
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my first child Audrey
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and that’s why I’m here today to share a
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compelling personal story of suffering
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compassion and hopefully you will find
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Hope
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like I have
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but first I want to segue just for a
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moment and I want to have you reflect on
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two different images and just notice
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what happens into your body or what
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happens in your body when you notice the
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images the first image is sourced from
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Dr masuru emoto’s water crystal
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experiments Dr Emoto was a Japanese
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researcher who claimed human
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consciousness has an effect on the
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molecular structure of water and one of
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the experiments he did was to place
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different written words on water to note
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the effect it had on the molecular
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structure
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so
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first look at this picture and just
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notice what you feel
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the words he put on this water bottle
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was you are beautiful
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and he famously said words are the
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vibration of nature therefore beautiful
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words create beautiful nature and ugly
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words create ugly nature this is the
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root of the universe
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so now for the second image I’m going to
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put you put up here is the image the
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words here
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or you disgust me
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you disgust me
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and I’d like for you to just hold that
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image
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and notice
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how it makes you feel
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or if there are any differences from the
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first images
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and I just want you to carry these
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images in your hearts and Minds for the
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time being well we take into
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consideration the reality of the world
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we are in just now
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today the world is changing so fast
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every second it’s impossible to keep up
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there is an old way of thinking and a
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new way of thinking the buzzword
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everyone hears now is consciousness
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being aware but how does this apply to
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today’s talk about bird psychology and
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the old way of thinking we treat the
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birthing parent the mother while
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regarding a baby as a developing being
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with an immature nervous system a being
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that cannot feel think for itself or
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truly understand the happenings going on
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around it
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an interesting Paradise Paradox envelops
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of Hades though we have this societal
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misconception that babies can’t feel or
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sense yet most of us have witnessed
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moments when babies radiate a sense of
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innocence and Purity from their beings
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so much that it’s contagious when you
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gaze into their eyes you share a moment
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of connection
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what is this phenomenon
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it’s the energetic relational space that
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babies carry it’s their blueprint
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this is what I want to highlight today
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for me the relational energetic space is
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at the heart of first psychology and
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bringing awareness to this relational
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space are what Lynn McTaggart so
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famously coined as the field is the very
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essence of conscious thinking
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every human being in the world is
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impacted by birth psychology every
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energetic imprint we are exposed to In
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Utero is stored in our bodies and it
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shapes how our bodies and psyches come
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into form so every action every thought
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every field tone in a baby’s space
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matters
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did you know the human eye can only
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detect point one percent of the
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electromagnetic energy around us
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I like comparing this to a cell phone
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we’re all familiar with cell phones have
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you ever thought about how Wi-Fi
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actually works when you pick up the
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phone call a friend it’s instantaneous
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and yet the vibration of our voice we
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can’t see your voice
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but we understand somehow it’s
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transmuted into Data that crosses an
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energetic field
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of space and time and it transfers over
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to the other person’s phone across the
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country or the world and instantaneously
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we can be in connection with that person
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despite distance
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are the physical reality that we cannot
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see
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so I want you to recall those water
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images that I showed you just a few
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moments ago
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and I want you to think about what this
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means for a baby growing inside of a
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medium of water because the fetus is 90
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water
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what shapes are we imprinting upon the
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molecular structure of this developing
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being by the words and emotions we are
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carrying in our energetic space
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and let me with that question let’s just
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take a pause and consider some really
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startling statistics that are here in
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the United States where I happen to
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reside but a lot of these statistics
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coincide with other areas of the world
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as well
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in the U.S according to the CDC one in
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54 children had a diagnose diagnosis of
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autism
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by the age of eight in 2016.
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and a 10 increase over ADHD cases were
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also recorded
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since then we’ve seen steep increases
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increases of both autism and ADHD not
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only in the U.S but globally
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and interestingly enough the average
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American that takes prescription
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medication takes four medications a day
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45.8 percent of the U.S population in
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the year 2016
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was recorded as taking a prescription
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drug that’s almost half of the U.S
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population that uses prescriptions
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today in 2021 60 66 of U.S adults take
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prescription drugs and out of those
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numbers 18 of children aged 0 to 11 use
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prescription drugs 20 27 of adolescents
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aged 12 to 19 use prescription drugs
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most of these drugs fall in the bracket
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is either stimulants or deep presence of
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the autonomic nervous system
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and alongside of this news of where we
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are with medication in today’s world
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Kamala Harris kicked off the first ever
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maternal Health call to action Summit in
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January 2021 they released data that one
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in five women will suffer from a
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maternal mental health disorder like
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postpartum depression
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and maternal depression is the most
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common complication of birth yet in the
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U.S most women are never even diagnosed
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and those that are less than 15 of them
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will even receive treatment for it
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according to the mom Congress statistics
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one in seven women will experience
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depression during pregnancy
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37 of anxiety and depression has risen
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in our teenage girls who are one day
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going to have to who one day may suffer
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from postpartum depression
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the United States has the highest
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maternal mortality rate of any High
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resource country black women are three
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times more likely to die in childbirth
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than white women in America
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considering these statistics what type
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of energetic relational spaces are
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babies entering into in this planet
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I wonder
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I know what it was for me and for my
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children
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but there’s hope
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and I know there’s hope because my own
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personal story birth psychology saved my
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life it moved me to shift my state of
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being in my autonomic nervous system
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this energetic space I carry into
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relational Fields with others
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I changed my career path in my late 30s
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after having two children of my own and
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After experiencing firsthand what is
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happening to women babies and families
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in the world
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my energetic relational space I carried
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around from as early as I can remember
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I was high functioning overachiever yet
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I was falling apart on the inside
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my family was broken and had been broken
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Generations before
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and when I got pregnant I had no idea
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what was in store for me I took a
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prenatal education class
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okay and I read a book What To Expect
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While expecting
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nothing prepared me for what I was to
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encounter
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and I ended up having a c-section
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because my daughter was breech
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and so many afflictions ailed her for
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the first seven years of her life from
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colic anger explosive temper tantrums
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that would have
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an hour and a half duration chronic ear
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infections gut issues eczema behavioral
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issues night terrors bathroom challenges
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inexplicable fears the list kind of goes
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on and on and it was very stressful
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yet she’s This brilliant little girl
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who’s full of life love and smiles and
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I’ll put a picture of her now
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when she wrapped her fingers around mine
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for the first time her hot little breath
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brushed against my skin
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and I was Swept Away by unconditional
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love
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and an energy took over me like I had
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never felt before
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I would do anything for this little girl
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of course all these hardships we endured
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in our first couple years of life sent
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me over the edge
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I had a mental physical emotional
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spiritual breakdown by the time she was
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four I woke up with four slip discs in
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my cervical spine and I could not
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function
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I was headed for another downward spiral
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I wasn’t getting answers from the
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classical ways of modern medicine I was
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given heavy narcotics and the option of
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back surgery but no answers as to what
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was causing my suffering
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this is when I discovered the field of
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Earth psychology
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and knowing what I know now I wish we
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had this curriculum that we have at
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Apple in every medical school every OB
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GYN track every school health class Even
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in our public school system because
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bringing awareness to the energetic
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relational space we carry through the
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states of our being and our autonomic
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nervous system
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what we call polyvagal Theory this is
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what we can put to work in our life with
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simple tactics such as timing taking
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time outs mindfulness breathing
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teaching this to our elementary children
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such a young age
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all of it about regulation of how we
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handle stimulation in our bodies
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and skipping forward to today
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after I went through such a healing
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Journey with cranial sacral therapy
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Supreme perinatal psychology studies a
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host of somatic-based therapy trainings
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I’m completely rewired you can say I’m
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born again in my autonomic nervous
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system thanks to the knowledge for
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psychology and somatic therapy practices
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now I’m on a mission to save the planet
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and more to the point change how we view
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birth and babies because I discovered on
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my path of learning first psychology
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is how to master the energetic
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relational space between human beings
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and so far we’ve been driven by
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disconnection
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rather than emotional connection
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for me birth psychology is about the
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human biological imperative that we are
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meant to be in connection with together
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in connection with one another
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and you might be wondering but I’m in
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connection with people all the time
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and this is where I paint you a picture
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of a story of my daughter’s birth
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through the lens of information I glean
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from birth psychology
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and I’m gonna ask you are you really
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connected can you be more connected more
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aware
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can you change patterns that are
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entrenched in your nervous system
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when I got pregnant
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I had so much hardship in the beginning
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I didn’t think I could handle having a
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child due to my financial
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situation at the time my job I was
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barely meeting my own emotional and
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psychological needs I was scared and
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alone
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and I didn’t realize that I had this
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little being growing inside of me
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marinating and the energy of my space
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heart math was lost to me I had no idea
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that my baby attuned to my circadian
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rhythms and the my heartbeat
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so that’s the case now I know why she
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was so frenetic when she was a little
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baby
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but just to pause and consider what it
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felt like her for the day of her
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C-section
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I had inexplic explicable rushes of fear
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and panic throughout that morning and
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especially when I was on that operating
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table ready to receive my epidural
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I never communicated with her in fact I
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had been communicating with everyone
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around me my family my best friend who
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was there I wasn’t speaking to her it
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was as if she must have been in a corner
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by yourself people were talking about
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her and around her but not to her
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and there is no gentleness about a
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C-section
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when I was on that table in this
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fog of ambiguity fear
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I was being rocked from side to side and
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I realized now gosh what did she go
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through
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when their doctor put his hands inside
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and ripped her out of my stomach
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out of my womb
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and then she was quickly you know sent
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over to the nurses
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pricked and prodded washed she screams
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so loud I still see her face that
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wrinkled face of her utter her screams
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after all of this I felt like a huge
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failure
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I was exhausted distraught I was a mess
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by the time my daughter was four years
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of age
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all the while
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now I know
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that this energetic physiology in my
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body is what Candice the internationally
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recognized neuroscience and
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pharmacologists so famously coined as
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the molecules of emotion
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if I just consider for my little baby’s
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perspective how she was handled what she
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felt I came to realize she was born into
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an energetic war zone here in the United
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States of America
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all because of stress
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and the level of stress that I carried
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in my family carried
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and just how we carry ourselves in our
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normal day in day out work environment
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on the surface she was getting all of
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her physical needs met yet so much more
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could have been given to her
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and this is where I remind myself of
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this image I showed you earlier
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you disgust me
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that’s what I think of now because if I
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was consciously treated the way she was
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treated at her birth and even in the
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womb I would definitely hold the message
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in my heart space that I must be
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something worth hurting
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I must be something worth targeting for
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suffering
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because
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we’re not conscious of our birth rituals
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and what we put our babies through
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so now I’m just gonna invite you to take
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a pause take a moment to breathe
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breathe into your being
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fill yourself with just some self-care
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and I want you to think about what I
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just described
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are you getting a sense that my daughter
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and I were truly connected
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just consider for a moment that my
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relational space and hers they were next
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to each other but we were miles apart
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from the inside
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she was alone and I was alone
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and I had been throwing all of my
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emotions
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into the relational space between us
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I was polluting the space
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there was no Bridge
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and for me this is where birth
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psychology
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builds hope for the world
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it is a bridge it was the bridge that I
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was able to build from my heart to my
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daughter’s heart and along the Journey
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of deepening my awareness I became
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enthralled with the energetic aspect of
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human beings
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we are pockets of energy
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Bruce lipton’s biology of belief Candace
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purse molecules of emotion Francis
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Mott’s Universal Design of creation
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Thomas verny’s book The Secret Life Of
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The Unborn Child Bliss goes on and on I
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stand on the shoulders of giants people
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who went before me and pioneered all
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all this awareness so that I could come
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become more conscious birth psychology
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helped me understand my emotions and
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where they are coming from and what are
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emotions they’re Natural Born energetic
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rights that are entitled to every human
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being
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they are about connection purpose
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meaning Joy Freedom they’re bubbles of
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life-giving energy and they are the
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essence of our soul
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and so when I consider the events as of
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late that are happening these acts of
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inexplicable violence you see in the
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news polarizing politics systemic
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disease anxiety depression I no longer
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look at a person and think why are they
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this way
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rather I wonder what happened to them
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what energetics are in their relational
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Fields what kind of pollution was put
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there and what kind of bridge can we
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build to connect to their heart
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to their emotions
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to their soul
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so I’m inviting everyone today who’s
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listening
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that we can change this world together
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and I’m reaching out holding my hand out
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to you building a bridge through birth
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psychology sending an invitation
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I want to know more about you and your
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story
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I want to be with you in your passion
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that is the essence of compassion is
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being with
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thank you
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2023 is apa’s 40th anniversary and my
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wish is that the world comes to know
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what compassionate birth practices are
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and how they impact every single being
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on this planet I hope you are moved to
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take action look at our website
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burstpsychology.com explore signature PP
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e program we have so much free content
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available to those who are Seekers I
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promise Apple will open doors for you
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and build countless Bridges to the
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hearts of all those who encounter your
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energetic relational space
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